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Four years.

That’s how long my divorce dragged on — four years of what I can only describe as pure hell.

It was messy enough that even Jerry Springer would’ve said, “Too hot for TV.”

But through all the chaos, confusion, and emotional wreckage, something unexpected happened.

I started to analyze it.

Coming from a data and analytics background at IBM, that’s just how I’m wired. When everything around me felt out of control, I turned to structure. I started tracking everything — first in a notebook, then in Excel with pivot tables, and later in Microsoft Access. Every issue. Every date. Every custody discussion. Every payment.

Eventually, that system evolved into a platform I called CustodyMate — a space where I could plan custody schedules, manage alimony and child support, document issues, write therapeutic journal entries, and generate reports. It became my lifeline during the hardest years of my life.

Now, years later, I find myself talking to others — friends, colleagues, even strangers — who are going through the same battles. Different faces, same pain. The same patterns. The same mistakes I once made.

And that’s when it hit me:

CustodyMate isn’t just a tool. It’s a framework for survival.

Because let’s be honest — you can be the head of AI, the VP of Cloud, the director of Service Excellence — but if your home life collapses, everything else follows. Productivity, leadership, decision-making, emotional regulation — all of it is built on your personal foundation.

So yes, I can talk about mainframes, service delivery, managed services, and operational excellence. But none of that matters if, at the end of the day, you come home and find your life in pieces.

CustodyMate exists to help rebuild that foundation — one structured plan, one clear decision, one calm day at a time.

Because life happens.

And when it does, you deserve tools and guidance that help you stand back up — stronger, smarter, and more at peace.

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